If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears. -- Thoreau

What about sex?

Lifestyles Organization

If you followed the links, you know it was a convention attended by about 3,000 people in the lifestyle. There were meetings, banquets, seminars, vendor exhibits, an art show, and dances. What do these people have in common? - an interest in the possibility that couples can include others in the sensual, erotic, or sexual aspect of their lives. I would say it more simply but it would be less accurate. Many kinds of people attend and it's difficult to find a category that includes them all, but I think that's close.

To settle for saying it more simply, most of us call ourselves swingers. Those of us who would accept that description are couples who share our sexual interests and activities with others. Some of us get together three or four or more at a time. Some of us exchange partners with another couple. Some, as individuals, get together with other individuals or couples. The combinations are as varied as people are.

What's it all about? - some or all of these:

For me, there's a sequence to that list - from the things that seemed at first to be the motivations, to the things that now seem to be the benefits.

Of the several million people in the lifestyle, most are married couples. Most of the others are unmarried couples who live together. Most of the few that are left after those are dating couples. There are just a few others who participate as singles.

It all started for me years ago. In 1989, when I was single and dating several women, I decided to look into the lifestyle because I thought I'd find more people with attitudes similar to mine. I did. It was a breath of fresh air for me.

Here's more about how I got started.

Let's take a serious look at marriage and other committed relationships.

Now, please check out my lifestyle Question and Answer page.

Some people say stuff about morality. If you do, read this.

These pages are not so much about sex as they are about relationship. Consider what monogamy really is.

Here's the best way I know to learn more about the lifestyle.

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