Here are some questions I like better: What will happen to your marriage when you start encouraging each other to have what you want? How much fun can you have helping to fulfill your partners fantasies? How grateful will each of you be to the other for making your fantasies become realities? When before, in your lives have you had somebody who helped you find the sex you wanted and enjoyed seeing you enjoy it? How will it feel to have somebody with whom you can be open about all those ideas you have and things you'd like to do? What will it be like when seeking sex changes from something you think about quietly by yourself to something for which you have a loving partner? What will it be like to have someone to share all those exciting thoughts and experiences?